This is my Sexual Inequality story
The fitness industry, it tends to be a mans industry. I knew that going into it. Working out with football players in the weight room had become the norm for me.
I moved from my small town in Missouri to a bigger city in Missouri. Dreams of being a rock star trainer had over come me.
Just out of college and starting my life as a trainer in a corporate gym. It was a great place to get started and learn as a new trainer. The corporate gym quickly felt like it wasn’t the place for me. I started looking at other more private gyms in the area.
I found one. It was beautiful. As I did more research, I found it was a private gym only the elite of the city worked out at. Wow! I Excitement came over me.
I put in an application and got the job almost immediately. It was almost too easy I felt like with my neophyte trainer background.
As I walked into the facility, it felt like all eyes were on me. The amount of beautiful people in this gym was unreal.
I wore a casual workout outfit lose nike shorts, tennis shoes and a workout top. Completing the outfit with my staple bandanna headband holding my little curls around my face back.
My boss took me in his office to have me sign some paperwork to get started. As I finished, he started explaining some of his rules. They were pretty standard for a workplace but I will never forget what he said last. ” I need you to look your best every day, hair done and makeup. You cant ever wear that bandanna. If you workout here, you must shower and put yourself together.”
WARNING! WARNING! WARNING!
Would he have said that to a guy working here?
I didn’t know what to think at the time. I was too young and naive to really care too much about it at the time. If that were to happen today I would have walked out right then and there.
Days had past and i got to work with my new clients. They filled up my schedule pretty fast and I was booked solid.
All the sudden the guy trainers in the gym started asking me, “Whats up with those shorts?” Bewildered, I asked, ” what was wrong with my shorts?” They were trendy at the time, simple nike soccer shorts and lose fitting. I even got some to match my work shirt. “They aren’t tight enough.” replied one male trainer.” You need spandex shorts like all the other chick trainers.” As I looked around, sure enough all the girl trainers were wearing tight fitting spandex. That wasn’t me.
Weeks had past I was still getting a hard time about my damn shorts. It was playful and funny usual nothing to make me cry at least.
Finally I gave in an bought some tight spandex shorts. I was tired of hearing it so i gave into the peer pressure.
The first day I walked in with my new spandex, you would have though I walked in naked. The cat calling was astronomically high that day. I am pretty reserved and introverted, any attention on my is un-welcomed. I remember going home that day just feeling like it wasn’t right.
Fast forward a few years to my ending with the facility(yeah I actually kept working there) numerous drama stories. I actually contacted bravo to have them film a reality show there. I really could write a book or a sitcom on this place.
I had built reputation as a good trainer there. I had trained Millionaires, baseball players wives and members of the elite city I lived it
I had built a really strong friendship with one of the guy trainers. It was never anything more than that. He was the male version of me and vice versa. Everyone liked to believe we were something more but we weren’t. He was recently fired for no reason other than what we all thought my boss was jealous of him.
My longest client since the beginning was coming in, let’s say that Wednesday. He was always on time, paid his bills and super reliable. He owned his own successful business, I really enjoyed training him. My boss was always on there girls at the front desk to collect past due bills. My client happened to be one session past due, they called and asked for money, even though he was coming in that day.
This did not sit well with pat, he called me immediately said he would never workout there again. He was insulted by my boss and this wasn’t a reflection on me.
Little did my boss know that I knew the situation already, pulled me aside and said Pat is a little upset he is coming into speak with me later. Everything should be all right.
I stuck around to workout while they were meeting. My client was mad, it was clear. After about 15 mins he left the office and came straight to me.
” I am sorry, I am not coming back. I won’t give my business to this place. I think you should also know that, he tried to get me to stay only because he said ‘You can’t do this to her’ you were upset that your friend was fired and you were in love with him”
I could not believe what I just heard. My boss didn’t defend my merits as a trainer in the facility. He tried to leverage some untrue feelings to get a client to stay.
My facial expressions were clearly mad when i saw my boss. I didn’t say a word just left. We were always required to say bye.
Later that evening while trying to decide what to do I get an email from my boss ” Monica I am sorry. I wish we could have done this in person….” He fired me over email. For nothing, being upset.
I have never gone to work for anyone else since. I would rather fail on my own then be successful at a place where I am not appreciated,
Why am I sharing this?
Gender discrimination is one of those things you don’t know it until you live it. We live in a great age where women are appreciated and sometimes compensated more than a man. If that is you that’s awesome! There are still those women still seeing the effects. I don’t think we should push those women aside just because we are seeing a 70% improvement of what it was 30 years ago. We should still be fighting till we are appreciated 100% of the population 100% of the time!
I just want to keep the conversation going. If you have a story please share in the comments, I want to hear your story .
I am fighting for my daughter and her future, as well as, all the other women who in the world who still experience inequality. Even if you are CEO or a women who makes a shit ton of money. Don’t forget about the women who still fight daily and still suffer.
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Author: Monica Perry
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